Online Dating Has Changed the Game

There use to be a time when dating involved going up to a person striking up a conversation and if all went well a first date. Times have changed though. In this day and age online dating is the hot new thing to do. Getting to know a person online seems a lot less terrifying than having to do so in person.

Before the creation of online dating sites and applications such as  eHarmony, Match.com,Tinder,and OkCupid people did things the traditional way.

What do I mean by traditional you may ask? Well  we can go as far back to the time when a man would court a woman he was interested in. For those who do not know exactly what courting is it can be thought of as a extremely modest way of dating. Those involved in a courtship usually have no physical contact until marriage. That’s right marriage was the ultimate goal which is something that seems to be lost with today’s society. In addition, before a courtship even began couples would state their intentions early on to determine if they were suitable for each other. Courtship had its advantages but often times family members of both parties were present making it hard for couples to have privacy and develop intimacy.

courting-pic
The age of a gentleman

Fast forward to later years of the 20th century dating took a new meaning . Men and women could actually go out together without the approval of  family members. Relationships did not start online but were struck up through conversations at parties, bars, and even the park.

Though effective dating is very unpredictable. People do not always make their intentions clear and relationships that people invest time in can end abruptly. Some relationships do not even have the chance of getting of the ground. The reason for this is simple. As a guy I can attest to how nerve racking it can be to approach a girl you are interested in and strike up a conversation. There is always the fear of saying something idiotic and worst of all getting rejected.

I can’t stress enough how much no one likes getting rejected. So instead of taking these risks an alternative was online dating. Online dating came to rescue promising so much and managing to convince people to actually give it a try.

According to Dan Slater who wrote love in the Time of Algorithms: What Technology Does to Meeting and Mating, he views online dating  as follows: “its the vast expansion of the dating pool. Everyone has access to so many more people than they were accustomed to in the past. I started to wonder how that might affect how people approach their relationship lives. Many of my friends are married to people they met online. Many have been using online dating a long, long time and have yet to settle down. The main thing was the ubiquity of it and how it suddenly expanded the mating pool”. Dan hits some key points in his statement.

Online dating has grown into a vast and profitable business. Recent reports have shown that an estimated  40 million Americans visit online dating services monthly. Attitudes about online dating has also changed drastically. In its beginning people didn’t see online dating has a great way to meet people but over time those views have changed.

stats about online dating sites

As the chart shows, from 2005 to 2013 public opinions on online dating have been positive. More people see online dating as a great way to meet people and settle down in long term relationships. Online dating revolutionized the dating world and as time progresses more and more people are flocking to these sites.

In my next blog post I will get more in depth about a specific online dating site focusing on the history of the site and its impact in today’s society.

Feel free to follow me on twitter at the handle @king_Kofi for updates. I will be posting articles related to online dating throughout the year. Any feed back on my blog posts are also welcome. Thank you

Citations

http://www.pewinternet.org/~/media/E03C8B6D1C2549729F9CF4147F8FC638.jpg

http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2013/01/23/love-algorithms-online-dating/1856853/

http://www.gotquestions.org/difference-dating-courting.html

http://www.sciencedirect.com.ezproxy.lib.uconn.edu/science/article/pii/S0747563207001574

 

 

 

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